Lockdown is a tense time for everyone. The tension can be even worse if you are sharing space with a spouse you want to divorce. Though happily married couples may be boasting of cooking and gardening projects together, the untold stories of unhappy couples and those who want to divorce are what lies beneath the surface impressions of lockdown life. If you can find comfort that you are not alone in your difficulty and seek help to negotiate with your divorcing partner, lockdown can become manageable.
Mediation can help you negotiate your quarantine life together and transition gradually to a time when you can be apart. Even if you hold a lot of resentment towards your divorcing spouse, mediation can help you develop better boundaries and good communication practices for the duration of lockdown. The mediators at Boileau Conflict Solutions use a variety of tools: psychoanalytical, mathematical, financial and legal, to approach your divorce from multiple angles. With a solutions-focused approach to your co-parenting, emotional issues, financial planning and more, we can make a thorough analysis of your situation, bringing much more peace of mind to your living situation.
Don’t Let Divorce Get You Down
No matter what you are going through with your divorcing partner, given mutual respect and good agreements, you can get through it. It may be as simple as agreeing to get out for a walk to give your partner space, arranging a cleaning rota, sharing homeschooling equally — or it may cover some of the more emotionally explosive issues that can arise between divorcing partners. Some partners may be forced to confront emotionally charged issues like infidelity while in quarantine. If this is the case, mediation can give you the tools to manage these issues.
Rather than handing your divorce over to the courts system, mediation should empower you. The “pause” of lockdown doesn’t have to be a disaster that sends your divorce off the rails — it can be an opportunity to plan for your post-divorce life in uncertain times. If you know you have a plan, it can make living together much easier. A peaceful, mediated, divorce which involves planning often resolves much more quickly and efficiently than a litigated divorce, so it will be easier to get on with your separate lives once lockdown is over.
Who We Are and How We Can Help
We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. Conflict analysis can result in a more optimized understanding of the net community property, which adds value to the overall estate, benefiting you both. The sooner you can resolve your conflict, the sooner you can begin to craft a sustainable future for you and your children. We have full videoconferencing capability for safe, remote mediations using apps like Zoom or Facetime. All remote mediations are completely confidential with the added security of a private, encrypted server. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.