Disclaimer: This article does not constitute legal advice. If you have any questions about your individual situation it is best to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional.
Recently it was reported that Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie had what’s known as a “bifurcated divorce.” This means they went their separate ways legally as a married couple, while setting aside other issues to be resolved in a later divorce settlement. California is one of the states that allow bifurcated divorces, and this option is often used in divorces that are high profile and financially complex. Pitt and Jolie had several properties together and they are still co-owners in a wine-making business in France, where it’s been reported, their rosé is selling for record sums. All of this adds up to a divorce that’s about much more than a couple’s personal feelings. When Brad and Angelina chose to be officially single for closure, they were free to negotiate any remaining issues out of the public eye.
Mediation is often chosen by high profile businesses and celebrity or high net worth couples to negotiate complex issues privately. Apart from mediation confidentiality, its other advantage is that mediation empowers the couple to be the owners of their divorce and reach a mutually beneficial agreement, rather than negotiating in an adversarial setting with their attorneys fighting for individual rights. At Boileau Conflict Solutions, we are financial experts, legal experts and psychoanalysts who help divorcing spouses negotiate in a mindful, efficient way. Tools like Game Theory and Communication Theory are used to help clarify separate and mutual interests and to recognize and productively channel the emotion surrounding money. In a divorce, the personal and financial are deeply intertwined, so understanding values at all levels – financial, spiritual and emotional, is necessary to reach a sustainable agreements in divorce.
Some reasons you might choose to be single before you finalize your settlement can include:
- Complex issues of valuation and income. If you are an entrepreneur or celebrity with speculative income, or income shared with your spouse in things like property, vintage cars and art, the valuation and division process can be delicate. Mediating with financial experts can clarify complex interconnected issues to reach the best settlement, ensuring that you don’t rush this part of your divorce so you can be single.
- A divorce that is dragging on. If your divorce is dragging on for whatever reason, mediation can help you negotiate with other in a more neutral setting while taking the burden of a deadline of your shoulders, which can alleviate conflict.
- Closure and dating other people. You might want to be officially single so you can date other people and not be disrespectful to your spouse. You might also want to be divorced from your spouse officially so you can file taxes separately and legally ensure that they can’t make medical decisions for you.
- If one partner is dragging their feet on one issue. If you both want to be divorced but one partner needs more time to negotiate a particular issue, divorcing early and continuing to mediate can give both partners what they want.
Who We Are and How We Can Help
We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. Conflict analysis can result in a more optimized understanding of the net community property, which adds value to the overall estate, benefiting you both. Our specially trained divorce mediator-accountants can also help reveal and investigate the proven financial facts of a divorce to make a full financial appraisal of your divorce and to suggest creative solutions for financial planning after divorce. Our high-level divorce mediation services are tailored to the needs of people with complex lives or divorces that may be difficult or protracted. We can intervene to break litigation deadlocks when divorces are already underway. You can visit us at our offices in Campbell, CA, Irvine, CA and San Diego, CA. We can also be reached by Telephone, Zoom or Facetime. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.